Friday, August 31, 2007

Oh no, not again.

Ugh. Just got this message from a friend:

"If you're not familiar with the current issue, a breastfeeding mom was asked to cover-up at an Applebee's Restaurant in Kentucky (where mothers nursing their babies in public are protected from harrassment by a new state law). She has made complaints to the Applebee's franchisee and national corporate management, and received the response that "We believe that this franchisee made a reasonable and lawful request of this guest in order to promote a pleasant and comfortable experience for all of its guests." They have even gone so far as to say that they may stock baby blankets in all the restaurants in case a mother didn't bring one with her so she can cover-up.
Since their response was neither reasonable nor lawful, there is now a national nurse-in being planned to protest Applebee's so-called policy."

Nurse-in, here we come. This will make three in three years for us :( First, the Hoover House in West Branch, Iowa; then the Delta Airlines fiasco last November...and now this. What is the big deal folks? Can't Americans just get over it? We are so frickin' backwards sometimes. I guess I'll add Applebees to my boycott list. *sigh*

ETA: I found the story from the mom herself. I am posting it with the permission she granted at the bottom of her correspondence (the bolding is mine). Sorry the text font and size are screwy - I can't seem to fix it):

On June 14th (my anniversary) a few of my children (I have 8) took me to Applebee's for lunch. For my own privacy I asked for the corner booth. I sat facing into the corner not facing the room. My then 7 month old baby boy needed to nurse so we did. A server (Jessica Balswick) came to me and stated that the manager asked her to come speak to me because she was a female. She said the manager said if we wanted to breastfeed we had to cover the baby's head with a blanket. I told her since it was hot out that I didn't have a blanket. She reiterated so I stopped nursing and asked to speak with the manager.

As we waited the baby cried so I passed him across the table to my oldest son (almost 18 yrs old) so he could help comfort his as I was a bit shook up. The baby was inconsolable so I told my son to take him to the van and I would come to nurse him as soon as I spoke with the manager.

When the manager (Justin Arnolds) came I handed him a copy of the KRS 211.755 law that I keep in my diaper bag. I said "I would like you to educate yourself and your employees of this law that protects breastfeeding mothers." He handed it back to me after glancing over it and said "I know but somebody complained it was indecent exposure so you have to cover the baby with a blanket if you want to breastfeed here". I again held out the paper saying "look at part 3 of the law, it says no person shall interfere with a woman breastfeeding her child". He said the same exact thing as before "I know but somebody complained it was indecent exposure so you have to cover the baby with a blanket if you need to breastfeed here." At that exact moment our server came back with our meal and I said "We can not eat this because I have to go breastfeed my baby." As I exited the hostess asked what was wrong and I told her very briefly and said "I don't see anyone else eating under a blanket in here."

I went to the van, nursed my baby, cried, and called my local LLL leader Karen. She told me to get the manager and servers name. She gave me names and addresses of people I needed to let know about this incident.

Our lawyer wrote a letter on June 27, 2007 to Applebee's restaurant (4009 Nicholasville Rd., Applebee's Corporate Headquarters 249 E Main St. (Mike Scanlon) The Lexington-Fayette County Health Dept. (Doraine Bailey), The KY Breastfeeding Promotion Coordinator (Becky Derifield) and the LLL Karen Brown.

The letter was ignored.

Our lawyer wrote another letter on July 25, 2007.

On August 3, 2007 Thomas & King, Inc. Legal Department finally responded. Mr Jonathan R. Weatherby, Jr. Associate General Counsel wrote "we regret that Ms. Ryan left without being served and would like the opportunity to personally invite her to return" .... "we are also considering keeping blankets in the restaurants for use by breast-feeding mothers that may not have them readily available as a result of this incident."

My husband gasped when he read this response. They just don't get it. It is like saying "Rosa Parks still has to sit at the back of the bus but we will give her a pillow so she is comfortable back there."

My midwife suggested I speak with the Senator that spearheaded getting the KRS211.755 law. I left a message for Senator Tom Buford and the next day he called me back. I asked him what recourse I had. He said "If you take them to small claims court you could get up to $1,500.00" .... "if you take them to a higher court you may not even get enough to cover your legal fees." I told the Senator I was not interested in money. I want things to change. I want public attention on this cause. I have daughters that will someday breastfeed. I want action not money.

I told Senator Buford about my nurse in/out idea and he thought it sounded great. In fact he said "let me know the date and I will come by and support you" .... he also said "hold a sign up saying -small children are not allowed to eat in this restaurant." I said "can I quote you on that" and he said "yes!" Senator Buford said "next time any one does this tell them to call the police and get a police report written up on it."

Since August is "World Breastfeeding Awareness Month" I am having one nurse-out at the Fayette Mall just to raise awareness. This is not in any way to attack the mall .... it is just a place to hang out at. I am late arranging this so it will not actually be in August but then again what is one day. It will be September 1st.

The second event is actually to draw attention to Applebee's restaurant. Friends and supporters will decorate posters and display them for all to see.
I will paste a copy of the flyer for each of the two events here for all to copy and share.

NURSE-OUT
SPEAK-OUT
Applebee's violated KRS 211.755

Educate Lexington that KY law protects public
breastfeeding and mothers should never be
asked to move, hide, cover up, or leave.

Decorate posters and display them
at a peaceful Nurse-Out.

THEME: Breastfeeding in public is Legal
DATE: Saturday, September 8, 2007
(in case of rain date 9/22/07)
LOCATION: 4009 Nicholasville Road

Lexington KY

On the public sidewalk
in front of Applebee's
Exercise caution and do not block the right of way.
News crews will be reporting.
Do not park in Applebee's parking lot!

I hope everyone can pass this on to as many as possible.
Every "quotation" is in the exact wording.
I am also willing to share copies of the actual correspondence between our lawyer and Applebee's.
Thank you for your support,
Brooke Ryan

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And, this was indeed the corporate response from Applebees. This morning, the following was posted on mdc:
"
I'm the one who posted the official corporate response from Applebee's. Yup, it was from the corporate headquarters itself, from the "International Guest Relations Manager." He also clearly stated that this was indeed the "corporate response."
So, re-post as needed. "

Careful now!

We wouldn't want to scare new mothers into *gasp* breastfeeding! Thanks E for passing this article along...what a sad commentary on politics running and often ruining public health :(

Thursday, August 30, 2007

Tea Party


Many thanks to M, K, and Baby L for this adorable kids' tea set! The girls were so thrilled to open it today after school.

And, speaking of school, E's first day was today - she loved it! Afterwards, she fell right asleep until I woke her to go get C...
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Sunday, August 26, 2007

Take-home words

C's teacher is impressed with her sight reading, and has started adding three "sight words" a day for C to work on. Friday's words were:

Of
Have
Because

They are also working on cursive letters (which I didn't do until 3rd grade...).

The girls went to a birthday party with Aunt B and her fiance yesterday, and today we all went to the Dino Museum for a couple hours. We tried to go to this cute little coffee shop downtown, but it's closed on Saturday and Sunday (?!?!).

E starts her preschool on Thursday. Next week my friend R is coming to visit!

Now you're all caught up on the exciting lives of the Bass gang.

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Spot the real baby

Is it (a):


Or is it (b):


Oh, of course...(b)...the one with the reeeeealy bad hairdo! Sadly, Baby L's lovely full, dark hair has disappeared, leaving instead this one line of thick hair at his nape. I keep threatening to pull out the clippers...
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Hawkeyes

There are some things that just stick with you when you move...such as this lovely verse:

"In heaven there is no beer...so you better drink it while you're here..."
So sing the fans of the Iowa Hawkeyes.
Baby L was just gifted these Hawkeye slippers by our neighbors and friends in Iowa City. He is now one stylin' little dude - and future Hawk?
Thanks, K and C :)


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Wednesday, August 15, 2007

First day of school

Today was C's first day of kindergarten! Of course, since she's in a Montessori school, it's not quite kindergarten as we think of it...her class includes students ages 3-6.



End of the day report was all good. She obviously had a wonderful time, and her teacher told me she was "a joy" to have, and very inquisitive. Of course.

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Sunday, August 12, 2007

Cool all around

D brought home part of a rattlesnake for the girls to see (killed in the chicken coop of some co-workers...thanks S and D!). They thought it was really cool:

(a. rattle)
(b. skin)

And speaking of cool:


A little family swim this afternoon:




Friday, August 10, 2007

My new favorite slogan:


http://www.littlegreenstar.com/images/th_recycle.gif?1160015425

Cute baby

L on the couch:



And with his twin (he he):




My special 12-weeker

Baby L just flipped himself from his back to his belly...which supposedly he shouldn't be able to do until 5-6 months, according to this statement from babycenter on developmental milestones (which of course I don't really care about...but still):

"Your baby may be able to kick himself over, from his tummy to his back, as early as age 2 to 3 months. It may take him until he's about 5 or 6 months to flip from back to front, though, because he needs stronger neck and arm muscles for that maneuver."

We've thought he was awfully strong since birth! That was really fun to watch! If I'd been thinking, I would have taped it, but here are the stills from moments ago...



C stuck her hand in the picture, but she wasn't touching him. He wasn't so happy to be on his belly once he got over...so we helped him back.

While I'm focusing on Baby L, I weighed him yesterday: 14 pounds, 3.5 ounces! That's a pound and a half that he gained while in Alaska.

Brag session over. Return to your previously scheduled web work!




Thursday, August 9, 2007

Fun video

Another mama linked me to this fun pro-breastfeeding video on YouTube...I'm so happy to see a dad out there advocating for breastfeeding :)

We're home!

I uploaded our pictures today, so for your viewing pleasure, here are some Alaska pics:

Kayak beach (south side of Kachemak Bay)...nice outfits, huh?

E camping (looking like a true AK girl):

On the Spit:


Many more pictures from Alaska are in the Shutterfly album (also linked on the left under "Bass links - Photo album").

Travel was pretty uneventful. Flew Anchorage-Portland-Phoenix. We ran in to our friend A with her hubby and two boys in Portland - they were seated two rows behind us returning to Phoenix!
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Today we stayed home, and my friend M and her kids came over (daughter L is 3, son C is 9 months). The girls all discovered my horrible, un-ecological mistake in the back yard: I left the hose running for a couple hours!! I was watering the orange trees this morning while hanging laundry on the line...well, I forgot about it. Hours later, the girls were thrilled to discover the mud pit that had appeared!


In other news...just five days until C starts school! E's preschool will begin on the 30th.
D re-installed our kitchen counter around the new stove, removed the old, broken wall oven to give a little more storage space, finally finished the wall in the living room, and patched the roof! He also replaced the bathroom faucets in our master bathroom, and had the place sparkling clean for our arrival :)

Sunday, August 5, 2007

Final musings on Alaska

We leave on Wednesday from Anchorage. We'll drive to Anchorage on Tuesday to visit with our old neighbors/friends M and J and their beautiful little girl A, then spend the night with family friends before braving the plane trip first thing Wednesday morning. I will be charging the DVD players and stocking up on snacks from the Natural Pantry...

I have really enjoyed this visit to Homer. I'm trying to figure out a way that we can spend every summer (or at least a portion thereof) here. Yurt? Cabin? Mooching off the parents? Real estate has reached a ridiculous high here - some lots in town are selling for as much as $100K an acre! Unsightly hovels with no view run over $200K. Pity we didn't think to invest a few years back...but who knew I'd find the Homer-love again? (Not like we could have anyway, but still.) I am positive, however, that I do not want to spend winters here ever again. I think we finally got it right, moving to a non-wintery place!!

This town just has some amazing things...museum, visitor's center, ocean views, boating, camping (in rentable Yurts too!), beachcombing, restaurants, great brew...and so many great people as well.

Girls are playing right now with the son of my senior prom date. We'll see our best man and his girlfriend and her daughter tonight...funny how everybody else grows older and more responsible...

That's it for now. I will post pictures upon our return to AZ...